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The Art of Healing: Healing With Hope from Shame & Regret

Overcoming Shame and Regret - Healing with Hope

Shame and regret are powerful emotions that can weigh heavily on our hearts and minds. They can potentially hinder our personal growth and prevent us from living fulfilling lives. However, overcoming these burdens and finding healing is possible with the right mindset and effective techniques. Today, I want to explore five powerful techniques to heal from shame and regret, along with Bible verses that offer guidance and encouragement in this journey.

Technique 1: Practice Self-Forgiveness & Self-Compassion

Learning to forgive ourselves is crucial in healing from shame and regret. We are often harder on ourselves because we believe we should have known better. The old saying. “when you know better, you do better.” Instead of continuously blaming and degrading yourself, realize that you have now learned to avoid situations you were unaware of. Holding onto self-blame and guilt only perpetuates our emotional pain. Instead, embracing self-forgiveness allows us to let go of the past and move forward with hope.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse us from all unrighteousness." - 1 John 1:9

This verse reminds us that God is ready to forgive us when we sincerely confess our mistakes and seek His forgiveness. It reassures us that we can find the strength to forgive ourselves through His mercy. Therefore, if God can forgive us, who are we to constantly hold ourselves in unforgiveness?

Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and the full assurance that faith brings, sprinkling our hearts to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.

1 Peter 4:16 KJV

Yet if any man suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf.

Technique 2: Embrace God's Grace and Love

Understanding and accepting God's grace and love is essential in overcoming shame and regret. Knowing that we are unconditionally loved by our Creator, despite our imperfections, helps us find healing and restoration. Grace is God’s unmerited favor; therefore, God will not likely give you what you think you deserve. You may feel you deserve hurt, shame, and unforgiveness to make you feel better, but none of those things ever make you feel better, So instead, God shows love and compassion towards you.

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." - Jeremiah 29:11

Numbers 23:19 King James Version God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? Or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good?

God's plans for us are filled with hope and a future. It reassures us that our past mistakes do not define us but rather by God's redeeming love and purpose for our lives. Our gifts and callings come without repentance; his thoughts towards us is still good. He never regrets the love he’s shown us, nor does he repent for the gifts and promises He made toward us.

Technique 3: Embrace His Mercy

God's mercy can be defined as His compassionate and forgiving nature, where He extends grace and forgiveness to those who seek it, regardless of their shortcomings or past mistakes. It is an act of divine love and compassion that offers redemption, restoration, and the opportunity for a fresh start. To fully embrace God’s mercy, you must clearly understand sonship and that we have been engrafted into His kingdom.

Understand that God chooses to show mercy to whom He desires. So just as He shows mercy to you, He can and likely will show mercy to those who have hurt you. Therefore, our goal in the art of healing is to desire those who hurt us to suffer pain; but to allow ourselves to receive God’s grace to heal and hold no grudges against those who hurt us.

Technique 4: Change the Narrative Over Yourself

Words possess immense power to shape our lives and impact those around us. Our words can either build up or tear down, inspire or discourage, to heal or wound. In the Bible, we find wisdom and encouragement about the power of words and the importance of speaking life into our own lives and the lives of others.

Proverbs 18:21 states, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits."

This verse reminds us that our words carry consequences. When we speak life-affirming and positive comments, we cultivate an atmosphere of growth and abundance.

Ephesians 4:29 advises, "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear."

This verse encourages us to use our words intentionally to uplift others and edify ourselves. By choosing words that build up and offer grace, we contribute to a culture of love and encouragement.

Psalm 19:14 serves as a reminder: "Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer."

There’s great importance in aligning our thoughts and words with God's will. By intentionally choosing words pleasing to God, we invite His presence and blessings into our lives. The power of words cannot be underestimated. By speaking life and choosing words that build up, we create an environment of positivity, encouragement, and grace. As we meditate on the wisdom found in these Bible verses, may our words reflect the love and truth of God, bringing life and hope to ourselves and those around us.

Technique 5: Seek Support and Guidance to allow True Vulnerability.

Healing from shame and regret can be a challenging journey. It is crucial to seek support and guidance from trusted individuals, such as friends, family, or a spiritual mentor. Sharing our struggles with others can provide comfort, encouragement, and valuable insights. Therefore, we all need someone we can be naked and unashamed, without judgment, a sincere place of vulnerability.

"Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." - Galatians 6:2

The truth of the matter is that we are our brother’s keeper. In many ways, we are responsible to each other regarding our healing.

Community is crucial, and the power to share our burdens. It encourages us to lean on others for support, understanding, and prayer as we navigate the healing process. Unfortunately, we live in a very unforgiving society where cancel culture is prevalent; however, you should only allow access to the vulnerable spaces of your life with people you’ve developed substantial relationship equity and trust.

My Final Thoughts:

Overcoming shame and regret is a transformative journey that requires self-forgiveness, embracing God's grace, and seeking support from others. By implementing these techniques and anchoring ourselves in the wisdom of the Bible, we can find healing, hope, and a renewed sense of purpose. Remember, you are not defined by your past but by the grace and love surrounding you. Embrace the healing journey, and may you find freedom from shame and regret in the arms of God's unwavering love.

As we grow to in forgiveness of ourselves and let go of shame and guilt, healing becomes a promise we pursue daily. Our faith in God’s words and his loving kindness empowers us to heal and walk in the grace of God throughout our lives.

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